A wounded inner child will wreak havoc in your life, control your emotional reactions, and flavor all of your life situations and choices. In the extreme, every abuser, pedophile, sadist, emotional abuser has also been abused, but more importantly, remain unhealed. The damages from their own past remain unexamined and is usually still alive in the […]
The Wounded Inner Child
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Inventory And Choices
People often ask me how to make more progress on their spiritual path. Unfortunately the answer is always the same: time, practice, dedication and money. Money? Yes, even in the days of tribalism, the Shaman was always paid. Communities supported the shaman, to enable her to serve the tribe while keeping her own spiritual practice […]
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Cultivating The Sacred, Or Breeding Contempt?
Let’s imagine you own an exotic, stunning Bengal cat. Gorgeous markings, intelligent maybe, even psychic. It often acts more like a dog than a tiger and… it also poops. The whole package is the cat. Do you focus on the smell and inconvenience of the poop when sharing stories and talking about the cat? Do you […]
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Be Judgmental
In this age of being politically correct, some might actually stop reading after seeing the title of this blog post. Please don’t. People these days might accept the terms discernment, or judgment call, but never judgment! But there is no problem with having a judgment. The issue is what you choose to do with that judgment […]
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Beyond Boundaries
Your evolution and growth never stops. Certain skills need to be learned and practiced. Then, as your energy shifts and changes more rapidly, more profoundly and with greater consciousness, if you have a spiritual practice, you are able to change your skills, enhance them, and learn to handle and use new skills. Earth plane changes […]
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Religion, Superstition And Personal Spiritual Practice
Religion is not only a codified system of beliefs, it also includes rituals that some might label as superstitions. The difference between belief and superstition is experience. If you experience something it is a reality, for you, and you will believe it. If you don’t experience it, then it is only hearsay and without proof […]
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How To Truly Help Others Without Ego
As a spiritual or metaphysical practitioner there is no substitute for having a spiritual mentor or teacher of your own to guide you. People typically tend to continue the same ego-driven behaviors in their lives, over and over, not catching it. They can’t catch it without practice and guidance from someone who can help them see […]
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Spiritual Development, Or Putting Out Fires?
Many people come to me when life gets tough, things go south, dreams are crashed, emergencies are looming, and then, once they are up and running so to speak, off they go again. I call this ‘putting out fires.’ It is just a superficial solving of problems, getting quick answers, or even seeking to ‘feel good […]
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Needing The Love Of A Spiritual Teacher
The love of a spiritual teacher is not human love and this is often misunderstood in our Western culture. Many people are drawn to spirituality because they are profoundly lonely. For those looking for the love of a teacher, you can count on that loneliness to be a profoundly unconscious desire to be connected to the […]
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The Spiritual Teacher As The Enemy
In psychology, therapists are trained to handle what is known as transference behavior in some of their clients or patients. Spiritual healers, readers, and teachers generally do not have much knowledge or skill in this regard, which can be detrimental for both the practitioner and those who come to them for services. What is transference? […]
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How To Trust Your Spiritual Teacher
If you have a spiritual teacher, how do you know you can trust her? Weren’t you told to trust yourself first? Wait, how do you know you can trust your therapist, or even your doctor? Especially with all the sexual assault cases coming to light these days, it is scary to think that someone who […]
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The Rush Of ‘Meant to Be’
Meant to be? I don’t think so. Whether you have decided you just met your twin flame, soulmate, or your heart’s guru, if you are in a hormonal adrenalin rush you are reacting to a chemical high – and that high can mean many things. Actually, the love you feel for a true soulmate or ‘meant […]
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Dirty Little Secrets
So many of us have secrets. Some sneak food, others drink alcohol, or they have a sugar habit, can’t have an orgasm, or they are depressed. More interestingly, in my experience, some people in the helping, motivation, exercise, or spiritual industry often have more secrets than most. They keep these secrets, because they have more […]
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Using Labels To Avoid Doing The Work
I’m an introvert. I’m dysfunctional. I am an empath. It is good to know about yourself. However a retreat into generalized labels will be an obstacle to further work. Generalizations are just that, generalizations. Generalizations are good for a quick conversation, but not for depth. Now that you have learned something about yourself and have a […]
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Victims And True Feelings
What is the difference between being a victim and feeling like a victim? Well, the first is identifying as a victim and making decisions from that base as a way of life. The other is going into the wounds of whatever happened to them, where they were a victim, and feeling those feelings, exploring them, processing […]
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How To Follow Guidance
Self-care or selfless service? Hold someone accountable, set boundaries, talk it out… or live and let live? Fight for a relationship, or let it go? Take action, or wait? Follow your dream, or get real and pay your bills? If only there was one formula. In reality, there is no one way and there is no life […]
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‘Handling’ People
When people ‘handle’ me, it makes my skin crawl, literally. Why do people feel the need to ‘handle’ others? What is the difference between say being diplomatic with someone, being professional, or having boundaries, all of which are healthy behaviors, compared to ‘handling’ someone? The simple answer is energy. Handling someone means you are a […]
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Addicted To ‘Getting It’
One way to improve yourself, or change your life, is to gain understanding either through a teacher, a therapist, a nutritionist, a personal trainer, further study or research, and so on. One can then use your newly acquired understanding to implement change, which will also change your energy, because you implemented change you understood. However, many […]
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The Secret Of ‘The Secret’
The Secret, a best-selling book and film by Rhonda Byrne, has popularized the concept of the universal Law of Attraction in mainstream society since it was published more than a decade ago. Yes, there is such a law, but most people’s understanding of this law is that it depends solely on the conscious mind – […]
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Forget Self-Love
If you are wounded or unhealed; if you grew up in a dysfunctional family; if you grew up in an environment of poverty, violence, racism, or sexual assault… forget self-love! Seriously. Where on Earth would you have learned the skills for giving yourself some healthy self-love? You will be shooting in the dark trying to do […]
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